People Who Married Their SO's Instead Of Breaking Up Share Their Eye-Opening Stories

Updated September 8, 2021

Happily Ever After is a dream we all have, but even in the best circumstances it doesn't come easily. We all know that one high school sweetheart couple that just seems to have it made right from the start, but even they have to work at it.

However, for most of us, there's a lot of trial and error before finally finding someone compatible, let alone finding love. That can lead to some hasty decisions about the future.

1. You can't always see it, but if you do see the writing on the wall, pay attention. Break-ups are tough, but they tend to be for the best.

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Recently, a question went out on Reddit asking how life is for people who went ahead and married someone they didn't have the heart to break up with. Surprisingly, it wasn't all bad.

2. "We made the choice to 'stay for the kid' when I became pregnant at 17. Even on my wedding day all I wanted to do was run away," wrote Reddit user theanxiousknitter.

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3. "Maybe it should have ended when college ended, it felt like a natural ending," wrote Reddit user Moira_Wilkinson.

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"But she bawled that she loved me so much, we carried on, long distance. Maybe I thought I'd never get anyone else? Maybe I loved her. I wasn't sure."

4. "I don't have stars in my eyes when I look at him, but I think he does for me," wrote Reddit user DrexDemSklounst.

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"With time, I've come to appreciate him more and more to the point that now I don't know what I'd do without him."

5. "Probably the best decision I ever made. Three years ago I was so certain she was not the one for me simply because I was bored and wished I could kiss someone else," wrote Reddit user TheyCallMeMelo.

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6. "I was going to break up with him the night he proposed," wrote Reddit user SegoLil.

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"We had been dating 9 months and had a lot of fun, but had NEVER talked about marriage or anything."

7. "Well my first marriage was one of those situations. It went OK for the first year, then the next 3 years it limped along before going into a death spiral which ultimately ended up in divorce," wrote Reddit user ryderjay.

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8. "I have been married for 31 years for [because I didn't know how to break up with him]. I knew the first year I had made a horrible mistake but I was pregnant by that time so I felt stuck. I still feel stuck," wrote Reddit user 4Tortugas.

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9. "I didn't break up when I could, eventually married him because I had to do it and the eventual divorce turned into the most painful long-drawn thing out ever," wrote Reddit user tonsofbull.

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10. "We had dated for 3 years and were living together. Everybody thought we should get married and was pressuring us. I still don't know why I went through with it," wrote Reddit user _seventytwo."

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11. "We were making out, and in the passion of the moment I said I wanted her to be my wife," wrote Reddit user JonnyAtlas.

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"Yes, I pulled a full-on Mosby. Well, to my bewildered surprise, she thought I was actually proposing. And she said yes. And started crying with joy. Whoops."

12. "Every single day I dream of what I'd be if I hadn't met her. If I had walked away from her like everyone told me to. But I didn't," wrote Reddit user Ramza_Claus.

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13. "It was fun at first... but it became a chore. Too much drama and fighting over literally everything. So after about 18 months I tried to break up with her," wrote Reddit user sharkdrivingabus. "It didn't work."

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She bargained, cried, cajoled, and threatened self-harm, so he stayed. They had a kid. "This lasted for nearly 10 years — horrible marriage where we really didn't like each other and fought all the time."

14. "She had convinced me that the problems with our relationship were due to being together for 5 years and not getting engaged," wrote Reddit user throwawaycuznda.

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A cascade of solutions followed. "Then she had me convinced that the problems with our relationship were because she wanted kids and we didn't have any children. Then she had me convinced that the problems with our relationship were because we had two boys and she really wanted a little girl."

15. "My SO and I were so totally opposite in our life choices when we first met that we both questioned whether we should continue dating or not," wrote Reddit user codewrangler1.

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"After deciding to see how things would work out, we eventually got married."

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