In today's political climate, we have seen many stories of people calling the police on others where police intervention may not have been necessary.
Assuming that there is something wrong when we see a situation that makes us feel uncomfortable and reporting it to the police seems to be the societal norm at the moment. While some situations need the police, there are many in which the police are not needed at all.
With the increase in police calls, many are opting for systemic change to ensure that these calls are curbed. Many states are passing laws to prevent non-violent police calls from even happening now.
Sometimes, reflecting back on our past choices and understanding where we could have done things differently is important for growth. Even years ago, we can look back and see how we could do things differently.
Megan Orr Burnside shared the story on her Facebook page. Reflecting back on the situation, she realized she had acted the wrong way.
"A few years ago I was in Tennessee with my husband at a training event. We were at a gas station when we saw a woman with a boy of about 10 years old, struggling to get him in the car. He was screaming and she was so angry and frustrated. We watched her get him in the car and there was a lot of physical fighting in the car. It looked like she was hitting him as well, so we called the police. They came and we left," she wrote.
"We then got a call and they told us that the boy was autistic and she really struggled with him, and she had even asked for the police's help in the past to deal with him because he was very violent. They said they have been helping her and she's doing the best she can," Megan wrote in her post.
"I had the most overwhelming realization of my mistake. In my eagerness to protect the child, I neglected to offer help to the mother. Instead I 'turned her in' to the authorities. We sat and watched her struggle and called her in. I have felt guilt even years later that I didn't get out of my car and offer her some help. If I had helped in that moment, it may not have led to more violence," she said.
"Fast forward to a few weeks ago, I was at a thrift store and a woman with two kids were in line to pay. One toddler boy was fussing and the other boy was asking his mother to buy things. She was so angry and explosive at both of them, the whole store was aware of them. People stood there and watched them struggle in the line," she wrote.
"I remembered the experience I had in Tennessee and walked over to talk to the little boy and put my hand on his foot. He calmed down.
The mother was so frazzled and apologized. She told me she worked nights and she couldn't even think in the day. I know there were other things going on, but in that moment I told her I understood what it's like to be overwhelmed. I told her she was a good mom. I told her everything was going to be okay.
She cried, guys. She CRIED as everyone else watched her struggle with her burden. Years earlier I would have been holding my cell phone ready, watching to see if she did anything that I should report," she said.
"I know there's a place for the authorities to step in, but I feel like we have become a culture who watches for faults instead of opportunities to help. We have become more separated and condemning, instead of compassionate and loving and serving. If we helped more, we would have to call the authorities less," she wrote.
"It's time to stop judging each other and start helping each other, or we will only perpetuate isolation, depression, addictions, violence, and suicide. When people are overwhelmed they need help, not condemnation. I know I have been guilty for doing this very thing and I see clearly how I probably perpetuated the problem instead of helping to uplift and assist others.
I am grateful for reminders (even painful reminders) that we are not that separate. We are not that different. True change comes when we are given love and help, not condemnation," she said.
