The Internet Is Furious After This Woman Was Kicked Out Of The Pool Over Her Swimsuit
On a normal, hot summer day, Tyler Newman and his fiancée, Tori Jenkins, wanted to hang out at their apartment complex's pool.
Totally understandable, right? Unfortunately, it turned out to be anything but normal when someone from the management team came and told Tori to cover up.
Naturally, the couple was outraged, and Tyler wrote up a scathing post on Facebook to call out the management after a humiliating experience.
"Today my fiancée was faced with either changing her bathing suit, covering up with shorts, or leaving the pool that we paid a $300 fee to maintain on top of a monthly rent of nearly $1000," he wrote.
Within just a few minutes of their arrival at the pool, someone else had complained about Tori's totally normal swimsuit, accusing her of wearing a thong.
Tori decided to go to the apartment office, and that's where things got super weird, creepy, and downright infuriating.
Tyler says that, in the office, the leasing consultant took pictures of Tori to show her how her swimsuit was "inappropriate."
Yeah, like doing that isn't even more inappropriate, too, right? The classy consultant then told Tori that she wouldn't want her kids around Tori, and that she couldn't understand because she wasn't a mother. And it gets worse!
As you can see, Tori's swimsuit is 100% normal. There's nothing inappropriate about it. And when Tori admitted she had "a larger butt," the consultant tore her down.
Sadly, Tori heard some stubbornly common misogynistic things, like "there are a lot of teenage boys in this complex, and you don't need to excite them."
The consultant also told her that Tyler shouldn't be spraying sunscreen on her, and that her curvy body is "too inappropriate" for children to be around.
What? How can a human body possibly be inappropriate?! "Today my fiancée was told that she is less important than how men feel around her," Tyler wrote. It's heartbreaking.
"I've never seen my fiancée embarrassed to the point where she can't even look her best friends in the face. I've never seen her cry like she did in our apartment today."
"Never seen her want to be isolated like that. I've never seen a woman so disrespected." It's absolutely infuriating, and it's no surprise that Tori was left devastated and Tyler outraged.
Since posting about their experience, Tyler and Tori have received an encouraging amount of support.
The consultant is clearly in the minority, as literally thousands of people have expressed their solidarity with the couple in Facebook comments, and also by sharing their story.
Tori has been amazed by the support, but it's still disheartening that this stuff happens in 2017.
Tyler's words bear repeating, loud and clear: "My fiancée being told she should cover up... because she will 'excite teenage boys' is bullshit. My fiancée should be able to wear a bathing suit without being sexualized and demeaned." Sadly, she's far from alone.
Thousands of people weighed in on Tyler's post, and the vast majority took Tori's side.
Women know the incredible balancing act it takes to find a bathing suit that you feel comfortable and good about yourself in that's even remotely practical, inexpensive, and even a little modest.
Some called for the Smoky Crossings consultant to lose her job over her treatment of Tori.
It's a good point — even if she was just enforcing the (arbitrary and vague) rules, that's no reason to rip into the poor girl and tear her down. That's just horrible.
And many others suggested she and Tyler do the American thing and sue.
You can't blame them — the outrage fire on this one is burning hot, and with good reason. And you have to think they'd have a decent case, too. Sadly, this battle over what you can wear is an old one, and it's only getting more fierce.
As if bathing suit season wasn't stressful enough, social media has only added pressure.
Keyboard jockeys cloaked behind anonymity feel free to say all kinds of awful, hurtful things because they know there aren't any real consequences. And posting pics from the beach is not the same thing as asking for opinions.
Even British celeb Danielle Lloyd had to deal with jerks body shaming her for wearing a bikini on the beach while she was pregnant.
"To all the people writing horrible comments saying I look like a washed up whale in these pictures I won't let you get me down and try and body shame a pregnant woman! No women should be shamed for the way they look," she wrote in reply.
This teenager went viral after posting about facing her biggest fear: wearing a swimsuit to the beach.
It's great that she got so much support, but how awful is it that that was her biggest fear? Shouldn't she just be afraid of spiders or maybe public speaking like the rest of us?
Those fears that start so early, caused by judgmental body shamers, become habits later in life.
This blogger wrote about her years of body image struggles, saying, "For most of my life I have hated my body. Despised it. Loathed it. Resented it... I've been terribly ashamed of its wobbles and dimples; like somehow they are the measure of who I am."
It took the realization that she had been avoiding being in pictures with her kids for her to turn over a new leaf and embrace her body.
Finally, she worked up the courage to take some pics and post them on Facebook, and found it freeing.
It's not like swimsuit designers make it easy on women, either. There are some pretty ridiculous designs out there.
As the hilarious ladies otherwise known as imomsohard showed, lots of designs don't have practicality in mind, and the message they send to women about being sexy all the time is ludicrous.
What makes Tori's experience so awful, of course, is that she had the right attitude. She just wanted to wear her swimsuit and have fun at the pool.
She wasn't even wearing one of those silly cutout bathing suits, and somebody still decided to police her body and put her down. It's outrageous.
