An 18-year-old girl has taken to Reddit to share her frustration and anger after her parents announced they are expecting their 10th child. The girl is the middle child of 9 siblings, 7 of whom have severe physical and mental disabilities. She believes her parents kept having children in the hopes of having healthy ones who can help support the family. The girl and her twin brother are the only healthy ones, and they have been footing the bill for the family quite often. She and her brother had to give up their savings and cancel a trip with friends due to a sibling's needs. The girl was under the impression that her parents were done having kids, but they recently announced the pregnancy. She lost her temper and told her mom to abort the baby. Her parents were upset, and the girl left to stay with a friend. Is she the a**hole for reacting this way?
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An 18-year-old girl from a family of 9 siblings shares her frustration about being financially responsible for her family. With 7 of her siblings having severe physical and mental disabilities, the burden on her and her twin brother is immense. Recently, they had to give up their savings for a trip and for a deposit to help their family. With their parents being broke, the news of a 10th child was the breaking point for her. She told her mother to abort the child, causing her mother to cry and her father to shout at her. The teen left home and is staying with a friend. Her brother thinks she reacted poorly, but she wonders if she is the asshole in this situation. Read on for reactions and comments on this family's situation.
NTA users advise OP and their twin to move out ASAP
unjessicabiel_evable | unjessicabiel_evable
Don't let your parents take advantage of you, move out 🚶♀️💨
mdthomas | mdthomas
Escape plan: Open a personal bank account and save secretly 💰
Mr_Extraction | Mr_Extraction
Encouraging independence 🚪. Supportive reply 🙌.
thirdtryisthecharm | thirdtryisthecharm
Encouraging OP to move out and stop giving money 💰
MountainTomato9292 | MountainTomato9292
Escape from parentification and financial abuse. 🚶♂️💰
Corfiz74 | Corfiz74
Commenter defends teen for not wanting to pay for 10th child. 💰
NotTwitchy | NotTwitchy
Encouraging response to a young person experiencing parentification 💪
PersephoneTheOG | PersephoneTheOG
Escape your parents' chaotic household by joining the military 🇺🇸
Grab_Specialist | Grab_Specialist
NTA. Move out and start a new life 🏠
canuck_2022 | canuck_2022
Protect your financial independence 💰🚶♂️
BlueMoon5k | BlueMoon5k
Consider therapy for conflict resolution 🤔💭💡
Inevitable_Tomato824 | Inevitable_Tomato824
Commenter suggests parents may be pocketing medicaid funds 💰
b3lindseyb3 | b3lindseyb3
Take control of your life and don't let others dictate it 💪
BeepBlipBlapBloop | BeepBlipBlapBloop
Escape from toxic parents and their baby-making factory. 🏃👨👩👧👦
Affectionate_Ice_658 | Affectionate_Ice_658
Encouragement for a struggling sibling to break free 🙌
km89 | km89
NTA. OP is experiencing trauma and financial abuse from parents 😔
[deleted] | [deleted]
Escape plan advised for commenter and Jake 😛
LiteraturesLove | LiteraturesLove
Escape the abuse and live for yourself! 🙌
Competitive_Rip6498 | Competitive_Rip6498
Teen rightfully questions parents' decision to have 10th child. 🤔
icanschwim | icanschwim
Standing up to parents' unrealistic expectations. #NTA 🙌
Ok-Map-5091 | Ok-Map-5091
Commenter calls out parents for irresponsible breeding, advises action
Nevali4 | Nevali4
Compassionate suggestion for overwhelmed young adult. 🤗
Money-Pop-5262 | Money-Pop-5262
Serious concern raised: Is it time to call CPS?
elg309 | elg309
Commenter sympathizes with teen who moved out due to parents' decision
Curious_CatExists | Curious_CatExists
Escape the nest! 🏃♂️ Take control of your life 🌟
SmolMommaV | SmolMommaV
Teen speaks out against irresponsible parenting of 10th child. 👏
Mishy162 | Mishy162
NTA stands up to parents having 10th child with disabilities.
El_Ren | El_Ren
Secure your assets and move out 💰🚚
usernameandsomeno | usernameandsomeno
Supportive comment encourages financial independence and criticizes parents' irresponsibility 💰🚫👎
ittybittymomma | ittybittymomma
Valid concerns, but get out fast! 🏃🏻
TovaIsNaughty | TovaIsNaughty
Concerns raised over responsibility for disabled siblings. 🤔
heardnotseen01 | heardnotseen01
Standing up to parental abuse. ✊
Keirathyl | Keirathyl
Protect your assets and focus on yourself. 🙌
DankyMcJangles | DankyMcJangles
Take charge of your life and move out 🚪👋
HighElf_Queen_Jen | HighElf_Queen_Jen
Sensitive topic. Let's respect each other's views 🙏
lauraleipz | lauraleipz
NTA. Choose your life, start living without them. 🙏
sbg-sbg | sbg-sbg
Commenter stands up for siblings, calls out parents' irresponsibility 👏
user828394 | user828394
Commenter calls out irresponsible parenting with NTA judgement 👏
3TTD3 | 3TTD3
Protect your money and your freedom. NTA 👏
ComprehensiveBand586 | ComprehensiveBand586
NTA. Refusing financial and parental duties for 10th child. 🚫👶
Nevermind2010 | Nevermind2010
Encouraging comment to leave toxic family and prioritize self-care 💪
RosyClearwater | RosyClearwater
Commenter calls out irresponsible parenting, urges independence. 🙌
dragongirl17 | dragongirl17
Supportive commenter suggests staying with parents or moving out
Solid_Quote9133 | Solid_Quote9133
Encouraging response to abuse victim advocating for self-care and safety 💪
TheRealSkeeter | TheRealSkeeter
Empathetic response to struggling commenter. ❤️
madredetodo | madredetodo
Take control of your life! 🙌 Don't let family hold you back.
Forward_Squirrel8879 | Forward_Squirrel8879
Encouraging advice to escape irresponsible parents and prioritize self-care 💪
Mission-Cloud360 | Mission-Cloud360
18 is too young to parent, mid-40s too old. NTA 🙅♀️
GrinchGrotto | GrinchGrotto
Self-care matters. Sometimes distancing is the best choice. 💚
OhioGirl22 | OhioGirl22
Don't burn yourself for others. Move out and live life! 👍
[deleted] | [deleted]
NTA suggests saving up for a place with Jake, calls for CPS.
Valuable_Stranger642 | Valuable_Stranger642
Cutting off toxic family for financial independence 🚫💰
blah618 | blah618
Take control of your life and cut toxicity out 🚪
SteampunkHarley | SteampunkHarley
Secure your finances and leave for a peaceful life 💰🚪
Alert-Potato | Alert-Potato
Commenter supports decision not to have more children.
xpotential31 | xpotential31
Commenter advocates for child abuse prevention and family planning 🚸👶
momo10567 | momo10567
Set boundaries for your own financial well-being. 💰
curlsthefangirl | curlsthefangirl
Take control of your future, save up and leave 🚶♂️💰
fbombmom_ | fbombmom_
Support for sibling in difficult family situation ❤️
Stormingtrinity | Stormingtrinity
Encouraging independence and responsibility while setting boundaries. 🏠
AbenaGH0209M3 | AbenaGH0209M3
Empathetic response to sibling's struggle with large family dynamics ❤️
Badger-of-Horrors | Badger-of-Horrors
Choose your own family - NTA stands up for themselves.
Agitated_Crab1 | Agitated_Crab1
